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    Were women to be topless, they would be perceived as a thrill seeker, mentally ill, hippy, or something else in that vein because of religious customs dictating that arousal of your self, or even others is sinful.

    This is more of an argument to go topless than anything else.

    FREE THE TITTIES!

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        The only states in the US that have statewide bans on female toplessness is Indiana, Tennessee, and Utah. The majority of states in the US explicitly allow femme people to go topless because masculine people are allowed to go topless.

        How about we stop warning women about existing as women and push against people who would perceive women as “a thrill seeker, mentally ill, hippy, or something else in that vein” for judging them.

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            What? I live in the US. I’m speaking from my lived experience here. I agreed that Utah is one of the states that outlaws it.

            I can’t have a conversation with you without being accused of being aggressive?

            • Quoting my comment to disagree must have set off some hexbear essay ptsd. Re-reading, it’s far less abrasive than I initially took it to be. That’s my bad.

              But it seems like we’re in disagreement solely on the basis of assumptions. You are right. Standing in solidarity with who need it is fundamental to maintaining freedoms and I wouldn’t even consider disputing that. However, the US seemed to be in a state worthy of societal triage, so freedom to be topless in the Bible Belt felt low on my list, compared to preserving people that I like.

              It’s just exhaustion at decades worth of regression immediately after small progress, and recognition that the US is potentially beyond salvaging.

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                I like to quote so that it is clear which part of someone’s comment I am replying to directly.

                I know it seems like the US is falling apart at the seams and we’re beyond saving, but that’s a bit hyperbolic when we’re just talking about laws around being topless. The Bible Belt isn’t the only place in the US either.

                Women are often told what we should be doing to avoid being targeted or avoid being labeled any number of things.

                I really was trying to have a conversation with you. No hostility here.

                • My initial comment was in respect to those places where it would be a major risk. Nearly everywhere I’ve been in the US would find little objection to toplessness, but I understand that isn’t universal. This effectively comes down to an inversion of “people live in cities.” People tend to suck more outside of cities. My friend, a witch, was ostracized from her small town for paganism, if you can believe that. So I’m still reeling from context alone.

                  And I certainly didn’t mean to condescend. Everyone here is an amorphous thought blob to me even after they express their physical characteristics. I was offering a generic “stay safe.”

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                    My friend, a witch, was ostracized from her small town for paganism, if you can believe that.

                    I can as my mother is Wiccan and raised me in paganism. It honestly just reinforces my belief that we shouldn’t tell women to quiet their spirit because others might find them thrill seekers, mentally ill, hippy, or something else in that vein.

                    Thanks for coming back and settling our disagreement. I appreciate the respectful back and forth with you <3

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        Only when society ascribes sexuality to things that are inherently not sexual.

        Boobs are not inherently sexual.

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          If by “society” you’re referring to my erection, then yes, it’s society that ascribes sexuality to boobs.

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              It is a violation of people’s sensibilities. People don’t wanna be exposed to nudity for personal or religious reasons. No need to expose yourself and violate that, no reason why one can’t just cover themselves up appropriately and avoid hurting others.

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                And I don’t want to be exposed to religious people because their repression and preaching is a violation of my sensibilities. When can I ban them?

                no reason why one can’t just cover themselves up appropriately and avoid hurting others.

                Your delicate sensibilities are not a reason to force someone to wear a shirt. If you’re offended by the human body to the point where seeing a woman topless violates your sensibilities, maybe you should stay home?

                The world shouldn’t have to censor itself to save your feewings. But it’s better that the religious prudes get to dictate how everyone else can live, because gods forbid they have to be the slightest bit uncomfortable.

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                Would you say the same to breastfeeding parents?

                Breasts are not inherently sexual. Just because a person’s religion may ascribe sexuality to it, does not mean that everyone has to abide by that religion’s rules.

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                  Would you say the same to breastfeeding parents?

                  No, that’s a situation where there’s a genuine reason to do it other than wanting to prove something or being a creep.