Hello, I would like to say a few words at my mom’s funeral service. I did not do so at my dads funeral because I did not think I could even make it through my first sentence before becoming a puddle on the floor. For those of you who had to do this, was it easier than you thought, or are there any tricks to try and hold it together? I am wondering if once I get up there, instinct will kick in and it won’t be a problem. Sorry if I don’t reply to what you have to say, but I will read all advice and am appreciative of it.
Write the speech first and practice it quite a bit. When practicing notice the emotions and maybe write breaks into your speech to allow you to feel.
The last funeral I spoke at I put a joke in and the idea was while the audience had a little laugh I could compose myself and get ready for the emotional close.
By rehearsing it you make it a bit easier but allow yourself to feel and grieve without restraint at some point.