My wife is overly careful, like this. It goes to weird extremes at times. She will say things like “is there the possibility that you would be physically capable of leaving work early to pick up a package for me?” She’s trying very very hard to be clear that she’s interrogating what’s possible, not making a direct request or demand. This is where the “physically capable” thing comes in.
My reaction is always the same: “Dear, you can ask me to do stuff - just ask.”
I am kinda like this - I don’t usually ask for things unless I NEED them. If it’s just a request that a no is fine for, feel like I need to make that clear. Like if my hands are full, “could you open the door” but if I have a hand free but am wrangling the dog, “do you think you could open the door, I can if you can’t, I just want Dog to sit while you go in and then while I go in” I do feel like I have to explain it’s not a demand.
My wife is overly careful, like this. It goes to weird extremes at times. She will say things like “is there the possibility that you would be physically capable of leaving work early to pick up a package for me?” She’s trying very very hard to be clear that she’s interrogating what’s possible, not making a direct request or demand. This is where the “physically capable” thing comes in.
My reaction is always the same: “Dear, you can ask me to do stuff - just ask.”
I am kinda like this - I don’t usually ask for things unless I NEED them. If it’s just a request that a no is fine for, feel like I need to make that clear. Like if my hands are full, “could you open the door” but if I have a hand free but am wrangling the dog, “do you think you could open the door, I can if you can’t, I just want Dog to sit while you go in and then while I go in” I do feel like I have to explain it’s not a demand.