True. I got banned from a dark humor community for a prostate cancer joke.

OP, after scrolling through your history and the modlog a bit, I don’t get the impression that you’re a troll, but you absolutely do come off as one or at least as a real asshole in nearly everything you’ve posted to Lemmy since creating this account. In fact, I can see that I’ve personally downvoted you a couple of times for it.

But going through that history, I can see that you have some mental health/neurological issues. That kind of makes things fall into place.

I have a few friends in similar boats. If they were more-techy people I suspect their comment histories from when they’ve had an episode or gone off their meds or what-have-you would look a lot like yours. They’re good people, who unfortunately have issues that make them sometimes seem like they aren’t. And I feel like that’s the case with you.

I won’t pretend to know what the best course of action for you here is. I don’t know you, I don’t know what kind of help you’re already getting or what different kinds you may need, or what you would ideally like your life to look like on or off of Lemmy.

But you’re on here complaining about getting banned by mods, so I think it’s safe to say that you don’t enjoy that.

So I think you need to realize that if you act the way you have been, that’s going to continue happening. It feels very trollish, annoying and disruptive, and honestly maybe even a bit dangerous in some cases. I definitely get why mods have felt like they need to step in with you, I’d probably do the same in their shoes. Their role isn’t to cater to you, but to protect the community as a whole. Sometimes they step out of line to be sure, but I’m just not really seeing that in your history.

So you gotta change something, man. Maybe it’s something small, like exercising a little extra mindfulness and taking a moment to think about what you just wrote before hitting “post”

Maybe it’s something bigger-therapy, medication, inpatient treatment (all easier said than done, I know)

Maybe it’s something else entirely.

But if you don’t like the bans and having your comments removed and such, the fix is something that needs to change on your end, not the mods’.

I doubt you’re going to be too interested in taking that advice from a stranger on the internet, but I figured I’d al least try.

“don’t be a dick” is a casual and brief way of saying “we don’t tolerate anti-social behavior and will remove you if you engage in it.”

And it’s usually argumentative people with an agenda to disrupt and fracture communities who conflate rules of civility with overbearing mods who “can’t handle my truths”.

I do think there are more abusive mods and admins here simply due to many coming from Reddit or other sites after being pushed out and pulling a Bender by creating their own communities with hookers and blackjack. The hookers and blackjack being bad takes and an inability to self-reflect.

But unlike Reddit, everything they so is publicly viewable so it’s possible to call them out and shame them when they go off the rails.

What? Assuming this isn’t just a joke or satire, but I’ve said some ruthlessly unpopular shit on Lemmy in many instances and I only ever got banned in Blahaj, and I’m pretty sure they unbanned me after a couple weeks or something without me even asking.