CrocodilloBombardino

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  • Firstly, if you have friends or family who know you who you trust with these matters, definitely speak to them and value their opinions over those of internet strangers. As a second option, a therapist is trained and obligated to have your best interests in mind.

    If you’re looking for a relationship, then you deserve someone who is fully into you, not a guy who will hook up and flirt and not much else. The two options are “fuck yes” or “fuck no”, and not something in between. Given the story so far, there’s nothing that really indicates this guy is looking for any kind of real relationship. Even if you want one, you can’t convince him or nudge him into wanting one and worrying about him will ultimately just waste your time, which is valuable even if you don’t think it is.

    Also, his actions are not a reflection on you, they’re a better indication of where he’s at than anything else. People are in all kinds of places in their sexual and romantic lives and those places won’t always make sense or work with where you’re at. I don’t think there’s any value in blaming yourself for hooking up with an attractive guy or for catching feelings – it’s part of who we are as people and it doesn’t make you weak or naive. The fact that you are asking yourself these questions instead of blindly thinking of this guy as your “new boyfriend” shows that, deep down, you can tell that he’s not taking this seriously.

    Be patient with yourself. Find someone who is willing to show that they want to be with you. You’ll get there in time.