

- Plenty of people lose their virginity in the 20s and later, even if it’s not talked about much. Try not to worry about it. Nobody is going to judge you. My current girlfriend and I were both older than you when we lost ours.
- Virginity is a social construct and (assuming nobody gets pregnant or a disease) you’ll find that not much will change in your life once you lose it. I understand the FOMO, but being on the other side of it now I can tell you that it’s not really worth having FOMO over.
- Odds are you could find somebody to have sex with if you were really truly desperate. But you’re probably not that desperate, and nor should you be. Masturbation is significantly better than bad sex with some you don’t care about.
- Online dating apps generally suck and aren’t a great fit for most people, let alone one-size-fits-all. If you want to avoid the dating apps, I recommend finding other ways to put yourself out there and expand your social circle. Touch grass and get some hobbies. Do your best to make plutonic friends and see if that introduces you to people who you might want to ask out.
- If you have someone you want to ask out, then ask them out!! I spent too long letting shyness and fear of rejection block me from making moves, but we’re much better off just going for it. Rejection isn’t guaranteed, nor will it kill you if it happens.




