On the part about “get out”, I saw he could have been dreaming or sleeptalking and I wanted to say that too. I’m told I talk in my sleep. Talk is an understatement. I’m told I say extremely hurtful, offensive, vicious things in my sleep, often directed towards people who I have no ill feelings against. I’m talking about cussing, insulting their personality traits, going down deeply psychological analysis of them, using words an phrases that aren’t common (as in rarely used, often intellectual words) screaming, punching and kicking in the air as if I were fighting them, all sorts of stuff very out of character of me.
I try to warn people about it if I’m planning on sleeping around them but even with a heads up, people usually aren’t prepared for the things I’m told I say. I didn’t even know I did it for a very long time, then after one friend had a serious talk with me about it and I shared the conversation with family members did I learn that it is a very common thing for me to do and I’ve been doing ever since I could first speak.
Maybe it’s some sort of mental illness or repression or something but for the most part, the people I’m told I scream at when I’m asleep are people I deeply care about and never does my conscious mind ever have these thoughts or an urge to scream at anyone.
So it could be a red flag that the guy said “get out” but it still could be a sleep talking thing that he doesn’t even know he does. I would bring it up with him directly in a non-confrontational but still serious manner. Ask him if he remembers doing it and what it meant. How he responds should help you decide if he is worth pursuing.
As for the ghosting, I’ve always used a ‘three strikes and your out’ rule. Things come up, I get it. If they come up a lot, they’re out of my life.
I went to my local neighborhood association because I wanted to improve where I live. I was elected president of the association a couple months later, mostly because no one else wanted to do it. It’s a fairly poor part of a medium sized city in the U.S.
I’ve been using AI (running locally on a computer I built that isn’t connected to the internet, to reduce harm to the environment) to apply for grants, plan events and help me run the meetings.
It is actually perfect for the job. Saying that as someone who thinks AI is mostly hype and useless for the majority of its current common uses these days. I feed it the text from city grant applications or ask it to make a poster to increase attendance and it’s saved me a lot of time. Without it, being someone diagnosed ADHD, I would not have been able to do most of the stuff I have accomplished so far.