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  • There’s a lot of bad shit happening in the world, and none of us care about all of it as we do about what’s closest to home. Maybe some do, but they’d be miserable all the time. No one likes being miserable, so we tune some of it out. The easy answer is “well it’s on the other side of the planet so it doesn’t affect me.” And while most people will agree, a complete lack of empathy makes a person a psychopath, most people also don’t have empathy for everyone in the world. We all have a filter. Do I agree with what the west is doing to Iran? No, but my heart doesn’t break for them like it might if it were in the next country over. Does that make me a monster? Maybe, to the Iranians, but empathy has to have reasonable limits, because sanity definitely has limits.

    Now, if it’s right outside your door (or in your home) and it doesn’t affect you, I think that’s different. But also, everybody mourns differently. I never cried for my father when he passed almost 23 years ago. I do think of him almost every day though. Like our favourite author (Stephen King) said, you do not forget the face of your father (paraphrased from the Dark Tower series). The face meaning, what he taught you. And, like my father before me, I am an Atheist, and we both believe that life is finite, and it is to be enjoyed while we have it, and being upset about someone who lived, not living anymore, is selfish, and unfair to the billions or trillions who were never born. Darwin said it better than I could. Anyway, he didn’t view death as a sadness, but rather life as happiness, and I’m the same. I remember the good. I remember the bad, and I try to learn from it. No one ever called me psycho to my face. Maybe some of them thought it, but I don’t think I am.

    How is it the British say it? “Keep calm and carry on”? Yeah, that’s me as well.


  • They’re probably not going to answer that. But like I said in defence of their previous account (assuming, it’s the same person), they do spark discussion and anyone is free to ignore or block them.

    What I see a lot of is people spamming the same article, with the article headline copies and pasted into the subject line and the alt text (so we see it 3x per post), to multiple communities. But you tap their name and all they do is post. They do not engage in discussion. It’s basic karma farming techniques that worked on Reddit, only Lemmy doesn’t have a karma system. Your overall/community score does not raise the value of your posts. So the deal on Reddit was, you did that for a while, then you sold the account and bad actors would use the karma gained to post scams to make their money back. That doesn’t work on Lemmy, so those people are just… I dunno. Littering?

    This user/those users may ask questions that aren’t the smartest, but they do create conversation. I think they’re a net positive to the site. Even if their questions are made in bad faith, seeing people come together and post good answers makes Lemmy better, IMO. It’s like Cunningham’s Law states, the best way to get a good answer online isn’t to ask the question, but to confidently post the wrong answer. If you ask the question, people who aren’t sure won’t risk sticking their neck out and having someone come along and gainsay [1] them. However, if you state the wrong answer, those same people will take the time to get the correct answer (it’s the same instinct, for one Internet user to gainsay another). Asking questions in bad faith achieves the same result.

    [1] Gainsay is an old, antiquated word that I really think needs to come back, especially in regards to online discourse (or any discourse, really). To gainsay someone is to speak out against them for your own gain. Like you can disagree, you can correct, but if you’re doing either in a way to make yourself look better than them, you’re gainsaying them. Simple word that is almost too obvious in its meaning, yet so specific and IMO we don’t have a better word for it. Trolling covers it, but it covers a lot more.








  • Don’t. Tell him to browse /all and block the ones he doesn’t like. And sub to the ones he likes.

    I also came from Reddit, and I tried to use a community migration tool. Like for example, I like Animal Crossing (the Nintendo game), and there are 3-4 Animal Crossing communities, but none are active. One is posted to by a bot. There is basically no Animal Crossing community on Lemmy, even though spaces exist. Same for my favourite band, favourite singer, favourite film — all of which had active communities on Reddit.

    So the point is to discover them.

    That said, I’m a fan of Casual Conversation, Ask Lemmy, and this one — the ones that get people talking.

    Also, tell him to ignore content mills — accounts (not sure if bot or person) that just post stuff but don’t discuss anything. A dead giveaway is when they post something that is freely available but they post blog spam. Like it would have cost you nothing to just link to the content, but you’re hiding it behind ads. So either it’s your business or you’re the tool of whomever’s business it is. And that’s not really a user you want to follow. Block a few of those and you’ll see more of the “real” Lemmy. (Also, become part of the “real” Lemmy by engaging others in discussion. Not everyone, and definitely don’t entertain rude people or people who are trying to herd you into an answer so they can gainsay you — karma isn’t a thing on Lemmy, and people who act like it is are, at best, a waste of time, and safely ignored.)


  • ThunderCats and Masters of the Universe (aka He-Man). I think there was a comic book once that did it, but I mean, like a movie. They’ve done a bunch of Transformers and they did Barbie, as far as modern 80s cartoon/toy adaptations. I think they’ve tried to do ThunderCats but the rights have been tied up or something. I feel like Masters of the Universe was objectively cooler, but ThunderCats was the one I watched. Looking forward to seeing the new MOTU in theaters this summer.







  • The way I’ve heard it, they will give rotten people the best possible defence so they can’t appeal as easily.

    Say you want to be an ethical defence attorney. So you tank your client’s cases because they’re rotten. First of all, they get appeals because their new lawyer can show where you messed up. Second, you don’t get new cases, so you go deeper into debt to pay off law school. Make it make sense.

    I think a lot of new lawyers dabble in defence while reaching for more lucrative work, because law school is expensive and they want more of their paycheck to go to paying the bills, and eventually buying nice things.



  • Okay, so Bush was there because of 9/11. It’s not that the government knew about 9/11 in advance and got POTUS out of the area. It’s that the government gets hundreds/thousands of threats a day, and that one was credible enough they got Bush out of town just to be safe. Then, when it happened, Bush didn’t react because he was in a classroom full of kids and he did not want to upset them.

    I’m not saying Bush was a saint, he wasn’t, but a couple things he did weren’t as bad as people think. That’s what that was. As for the “you don’t get fooled again” quote, he knew if he said “shame on me,” the Democrats would use the sound byte, and he was correct. So he course corrected. Made himself look like an idiot to prevent his opposition from making him look worse.

    Still a bad guy, but let’s be fair, especially with information we’ve learned since.


  • This is a tough question. I’ve had to put down a dog and a cat. They were both basically messed up beyond any kind of reasonable care. Like we could have spent tens of thousands of dollars to keep them alive, but they would have been suffering. I haven’t had a dog since that dog, and was almost brought to tears when I saw a dog like him last weekend, but it was cool because the owner let me pet it and it was super friendly.

    Cats I honestly don’t care as much about, I guess because cats don’t really bond with people like dogs do. I see cats as more of a utility. You get a cat and it kills things. They’re also way cooler, IMO. But cats like to get hit by cars, they’re dumb as hell, you get another cat, it’s fine. I guess dogs do too, they chase cars, they don’t know any better. My dog was an inside dog (small breed). You can’t do that with cats (or big dogs).

    As for people… there are ways. I mean, once you’re of legal age and if you aren’t impaired, you can get a DNR (do not resuscitate) order. There are bracelets. Some people get it tattooed on them. If you’re DNR and you go to the hospital, they can treat you with your consent, but if you cannot consent, they are not allowed to treat you. If they do, it’s legally considered assault. So they won’t do it. They will make you comfortable, but they will let you die. They won’t do anything to quicken your death, either — except in some places where they will.

    I believe anyone should be able to choose to have their life medically terminated, if they are suffering and of sound mind and body. I have no religious opposition to it. If someone I loved made that choice, I would be sad, but I would not tell them they can’t. That’s not for me to say.


  • I’m good with asking DuckDuckGo for help with a game and AI scrapes the game sites to just give me the answer. You know, sites like IGN and Dutch with popups and ads and other trash… and AI just steps past all that shit and gets me the answer. I’m fine with that. All these sites are just scraping guides and such, I don’t mind if they get stepped on.

    Like, tell me how to save both the Geth or the Quarians in Mass Effect 3. So if you don’t know, Mass Effect was this kinda mediocre space shooter with magic, and it was fun… but then you get to the second one and it remembers all your choices, and there’s so much to do. And the Geth were the bad guys in the first one. And if you’re playing a male character, the Quarian is this hot middle eastern type lady you can romance. Then you meet a nice Geth (it’s a long story and the game is longer) and by the third one, you do this mission, it’s a lot of bullshit, then this bullshit boss fight, then you get put on the spot. I’m not going to spoil it, but for like 99.99% of us, one of your crew dies. And it sucks. But if you made some very specific choices, going back to the very first one… you can save both. I’m talking like 100+ hours since you made a mistake that didn’t even matter then, but it locks you out of saving one of your people. Stuff like that.