I’ve seen videos of Croatian tourist activities like swimming holes and ziplines and I think that may be the one. And plenty of beautiful city to cover week one. Was thinking about spending one night in Zagreb–>Split–>Dubrovnik, send the madre on her way, and then just wing it by myself once I’ve gotten the lay of the land.
If you have more specific recs I’m all ears

Genuinely laughed out loud

Lotta machismo too.

Very interesting, ty for giving me another perspective. I find titles onerous unless you’re working–don’t call me Dr at the corner store, I’m not gonna thank a random off-duty veteran for their service, etc–because it ranks people as though some are more worthy than others. I didn’t know that about lawyers in latin america

My cousin’s dutch ex bf was really hot so I could make exceptions

The platform is here for discussion. Don’t cuss strangers out and be mean and then double triple quadruple down next time, it’s not hard

I had multiple classmates do this too and they were genuinely wonderful people. I think they heard it once as a tactic and decided to keep using it. Nothing against them but it’s terrible advice What if it was a psyop to make life more difficult for autistic people lol

You were rude to someone who was asking if something that bothers them is individual or common. You don’t think you were rude, which is nuts but whatever, but you were definitely rude to me

Woooooow. I dislike the Dutch now

I think they were talking more about someone who says your name unnecessarily in regular conversation but the Chinese name thing is so real. I’m half-Taiwanese and speak at a grade-school level but it irritates me so much when someone says my Chinese name wrong. Like just don’t say it if you’re gonna fuck it up

If your response to someone telling you you sounded mean is fuck you fuck you fuck you then you should look at yourself

Where are you from? Do you have a caste system? I’m in the US and I am pretty nice to patients and it’s rare that someone has a problem with me. Here we are called medical student or student doctor but it’s pretty clear we aren’t the ones in charge so it’s not like we’re tricking the patients.

I trained at a center with a majority population of Black and brown people and a lot of disadvantaged people, so I thought calling every man sir was a good idea, since it gave the implication I didn’t think I was any better than them. We have a long history of medical racism here. Or more rarely I do Mr/Ms Firstname

Doesn’t mean you have to say it repeatedly lol I know what my name is

Your response to OP was unkind and your behavior after was egregious. Think about your wording next time. You don’t know what others are going through and your desire to get the last word in could harm a stranger for no reason.

Tone matters and it didn’t sound sincere, it sounded like you were putting someone down. Immediately resorting to calling me a loser and telling me to fuck myself is telling on yourself. OP was talking about something a lot of people can relate to and you came off mean and condescending. They’re just trying to have a conversation. Sorry you react so poorly to differing opinions, you’ll have a hard and lonely life.

Anyway, not talking to you anymore, there are a lot of people who read some book like how to win friends and influence people and use that advice in a way that you can pick up on. If you feel something is sleazy and off you should trust that gut feeling.

I think in this case it’s more about them repeating your name. Feels fake.
In general I don’t use titles but at work I usually call men sir when they’re 50+ and I’ve never seen someone get bothered by it. It feels weird to go up to a stranger and say “Hi Brian, I heard you’re having chest pain today and I have some questions for you” or whatever. They don’t react negatively and seem to feel more respected. I don’t call women “m’am” because I know that can be irritating.
I think doctor only makes sense when you’re in a role at work. If you’re a visitor at a salon, don’t insist on it. If my boyfriend is booking a plane ticket he shouldn’t add Dr., but if he’s at a conference for fellow PhDs they should. If I’m at work they better call me doctor and not Miss or by my first name or I’ll be big mad

It’s not an unreasonable gripe and autism isn’t an insult.
Some people use your name too much and it does feel weird, like they’re trying to use their self-help book advice on you. “Good luck navigating life” is a nasty thing to say. Don’t be a dick

The article is kinda shit and gives no information but usually there would be multiple eyes on the patient. You have at minimum the rotating nurse (not scrubbed in,) the scrub tech (sterile and knows every step of the operation,) the anesthesiologist or CRNA (wouldn’t have a good view of the site), and a resident or PA assisting. There would have been eyes on the patient, which is what makes it so confusing. Maybe the surgeon was intimidating and nobody felt they could speak up against him?

https://www.namd.org/journal-of-medicine/3293-surgeon-removed-liver-instead-of-spleen-family-says.html This article is better than the one in the post but doesn’t answer the big question, which is how many people had eyes on the patient?!?!? It’s difficult for me to believe that a surgeon with experience could make this kind of mistake without inebriation being a factor. The article describes the organ removed as “grossly” obviously a liver, grossly in this case meaning you can see it with your eyes and don’t need special tools. I can’t imagine making this mistake and I’m not even a surgeon I just went to med school. Absolutely insane case and I wonder how many other people this doctor harmed.

Totally agree and this has been discussed a lot. We learn about the Swiss cheese model https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Swiss_cheese_model, I’ve read The Checklist Manifesto, we talk a lot in med school about listening to nurses and scrub techs and pharmacists…it goes on.
I’ve sat in on a lot of morbidity and mortality rounds. If there’s an adverse event it’s reviewed, and yes it can be very embarrassing for the people involved. We had a breast cancer patient who needed more exploration involving the axillary lymph nodes and an artery got nicked and vascular had to be called, and the next day she was bleeding significantly and had to be brought back to the OR with me, as the med student, holding pressure on her armpit. She lived. A few days later both attending surgeons (breast and vascular) had to do the Morbidity and Mortality in front of the whole hospital, and it felt like a movie.

This should be investigated exactly how you said but there is no way that surgeon was sober. Unless the patient’s anatomy was crazy weird, there’s no way that was an honest mistake.