MolochAlter

He’s been a plumber for 40+ years, he will know what it would have cost you, if you tell him what happened.

You can be matter-of-fact about it and not belabour the point by catastrophizing a possible outcome.

“Hey dad, we dodged a bullet. A fitting was loose but they caught the leak and there is no permanent damage, I’m going to go fix it”

If he’s not an idiot he won’t need reprimand, he’ll know he fucked up, and the potential size of the fuckup.

You’d probably end up shooting yourself twice in the back of the head after posting this if anything you knew was actually actionable.

Yes.

You seem to think I recognize your authority to give me orders. I don’t.

No, he’s giving you free advice on how not to be an insufferable dickhead in public; advice that you seem to desperately need, and this is coming from an atheist, before you think I am playing team sports.

It’s a very simple concept: if all you’re contributing to a conversation is the equivalent of coming into the room and violently jerking yourself off while going “hurrrr look how big my dick is” you’re being actively detrimental to the conversation no matter if you’re right or wrong.

You can engage with the conversation while disagreeing with the premise, that is not what you’re doing. You are just being a smug teenage dickhead who needs to butt into every conversation to, if nothing else, reinforce the idea that there should be harsher barriers to being on the internet in the mind of everyone looking at your “contributions.”

There are a few contributing factors:

1. Posts asking for this kind of advice always come from people who either did not do anything wrong in the interactions they are describing, or think they did not. Either way they will not offer a fair description of events, which means the readers will be primed to think they are entirely in the right and victimised for no reason by the other party, which is something that does warrant separation over reparation.
2. There is a general culture of disposability, especially in the US, around everything, not just relationships. You need only check the level of repairability of appliances over the decades to see it in practice, and the mindset extends to most things. Employees don’t work how you want them to? Fire and get new ones, phone broke? Trash it and get a new one, issues with your partner? you get the picture.
3. In your specific case, @DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works, you have a tendency to ask a lot of questions about your mental health and perceived shortcomings, and their relationship with your extremely sheltered, unorthodox upbringing, while also being extremely adamant not to do anything to change the relationship you have with your parents. Not to mention the stuff you routinely write in OffMyChest. Do not be surprised, when you bring these connections to the table, that people tell you to distance yourself, since you can also clearly see there is a toxic element to that relationship.

Brown lentils.

• Dice onions, celery, carrots, in equal volume.

• Stirfry them in a pot with some olive oil.

• Throw in a sausage or some other meat with a strong flavour, just a small amount, stirfry until the outside is seared.

• Add a can of lentils and a can of tomato chunks and sauce, cook until the chunks have rendered.

• Serve with polenta or another neutral side.

I picked up an old amplifier from my parents, they bought it for their day’s equivalent of 4-500 bucks to use with their LP player, which has since died.

It’s a Scott from the 70s, made in the US, and it somehow now appreciated over inflation if you look at the sale prices on ebay and the like (~700€).

When setting it up i opened it to see if it needed cleaning out, and the insides were pristine, and clearly hand soldered.

The sound is clean as a whistle, it’s compatible with RC cables, and has a standard European plug. Not only does it not need upgrading, it stands head and shoulders over what you can get today for the same price they bought it for.

Sometimes, products made before planned obsolescence were just better.