Does a god need to have consciousness? I don’t believe that is a requirement and what an unsettling thought that it.

I know, such a breath of fresh air!

Look, I understand your point and I shouldn’t consider any woman being nice to me as flirting… But in this particular case, she just asked me for my phone number yesterday so she could quote " get to know me better and continue the conversation over the weekend." We have odd work weeks and this is the start of our weekend.

I don’t think there is any mystery about that part anymore. I had asked if she was seeing John and she said no, they are just friends.

As for John, he was denied for the role he really wanted to apply to for very dumb reasons and I am very upset for him. There is nothing I can personally do about improving his situation as the things he hates about our company are not within my or even my superior’s control. He has told me he can’t leave either as he can’t find a job elsewhere.

I want to be supportive of John, but I am even trying to push it in this direction, its just going there on its own and I am currently not stopping it as she is an awesome person I would like to get to know better.

You are right though, there is no option where “I get the girl” and not burn bridges and not torch themental health of my coworker. Even if I said no, he will still be hurt as she is clearly not interested in him. Just to a lesser degree.

Finally! Now someone is asking the big questions that we need answers to.

I never thought I would be in one of these types of posts either. It has gotten spicier. Out of curiosity, I had ended up asking her if there was anything going on between them to which she stated that they are just friends and he asked for her number. She does not want to lead him on according to her. Yesterday she asked for my number and I said sure.

Lady is moving this faster than I had planned for.

“He needs to learn to find a level of sharing that can keep him safe, because elsewhere in the thread you mention he’s on the verge of disciplinary action.” Agreed, he overshares way too much and it is going to bite him on the ass at some point.

My closeness with my team is unavoidable and is better I lean into it. We work long shifts and I must interact with them constantly. Managing the children as a kindergarten teacher becomes a lot easier when they like you personally.

“But fr, act like he didn’t tell you about Jane and pretend you forgot. It’s probably the only winning move here even if it sucks.” I don’t that will fly sadly. He has mentioned it twice now.

“Posting follow ups as things continue is the ultimate winning move.” You just want to know how this nonsense plays out, don’t you? lol

“He put you in an uncomfortable situation by telling you he’s romantically interested in a coworker who’s been hitting on you. You probably shouldn’t know he’s a furry either.” I was aware he was a furry on his first day with me, he does not hide it whatsoever. It is an open part of his personality that I have just come to accept as it is harmless if not a bit odd. He tends to overshare things so you might be right.

He has taken a strong liking to me for reasons I don’t fully follow other than some of our interests align. I wouldn’t say I discourage it though as I have a discord channel just for our team where people also post memes and things on our off days. I am MUCH friendlier to my staff than your average boss, but I have a strict rule that I will not hang out with any of my coworkers where they cannot all be involved if they wish and I cannot show favoritism. I have only been taken up on that once. I won’t blame him for wanting to trust me with that information, I have been told I look trustworthy or something.

As far as I have seen, she and him are perfectly friendly with each other, now recently working as a team to cause harmless, minor havoc in my life for fun. lol I don’t know the full extent. I do know that they have known each other for a while too and they like to send memes to each other. I just don’t know if the romantic interest is there though. Kind of like having a good friend that is also into you but you don’t share it. I don’t know.

If I can’t/won’t see both sides of the coin, am I really a good leader? I wouldn’t think so.

“I’m also pretty certain that she was just polite to him and didn’t want to upset him.” That may be the case and it seems that way if she is still happy to talk to me as she does. I have been on both sides of this and it certainly sucks to be in the other position. I am trying to handle this delicately if I can. It doesn’t help that he is constantly trying to hang out with me.

Its not my job to save John, doesn’t mean I won’t feel bad regardless. I do care even if I try not to.

Keeping it quiet is my thought as well, I just don’t know how well it would go as he talks to her a lot and they seem to be friends. He has asked her out and she said yes previously. I think he might notice if she changed her mind.

It is usually good advice to follow as I have seen it turn messy, but life doesn’t always work out that way. The type of person I would date is usually not found anywhere else. I prefer the heavily introverted types and they don’t tend to do a lot of things out where I might find them. Online dating is just depressing even if you do get matches.

I find it a lot harder to get an ideal partner than a job, so I am willing to gamble for the right person.

Yes, I was actually addressing it before he told me about his desire for Jane. I try to be friendly and on good terms with all those under me, but I am not friends with them to avoid bias. He just tends to over share a lot.

From a business perspective, I am trying to ensure my team member is performing as best he can.

From a personal perspective, I am actively trying to not have this guy kill himself from pushing too hard. He can’t afford to be fired, he has made that well known. Before you ask, I don’t make pay decisions. He stays because he has to. I and my staff have tolerated some of the complaining, but I will talk to him when he starts going overboard. He is a good guy otherwise.

Do you do the proper business action or do you do the right thing? I am not heartless.