• backalleycoyote@lemmy.today
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    2 days ago

    I’m sorry but is there someone around you that usually helps you when you are talking to people?

    So what if there was? Adding a backhanded jab that relies on treating special needs people like they’re less than capable of handling themselves and need someone else to do their talking as an insult is a real shitbag comment. If you want to resort to name calling don’t use the idea of special needs as making someone else lesser.

    It’s also not an “issue”, as if avoiding parenthood is somehow a deviation from the norm or amoral choice. If OPs comment struck a nerve, call them out on the part of the comment that struck the nerve- their description of kids as disgusting. There’s no issue in not having kids and the choice to not make them is resolved when the people who don’t want them take personal responsibility and precautions to prevent it from happening.

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      I’m sorry but is there someone around you that usually helps you when you are talking to people?

      So what if there was? Adding a backhanded jab that relies on treating special needs people like they’re less than capable of handling themselves and need someone else to do their talking as an insult is a real shitbag comment. If you want to resort to name calling don’t use the idea of special needs as making someone else lesser.

      I love you for this. Thank you for calling that shit out. <3

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        2 days ago

        Hi, people needing assistance online isn’t a negative or derogatory and I actually have a family member who needs help with forms and online interaction. Thinking its a negative is gross and abelist, please check yourself.

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      Why is needing extra assistance classed as a backhand jab to you? I have a family member who has someone help with forms and phonecalls and I have personally had to interject with their online activity, its more common than you think. Why do you class that as derogatory?

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        1 day ago

        Fuck off with the “I know someone so my comment isn’t bigoted” bullshit. That’s the oldest save face in the book, and it’s even more pathetic when you’re anonymously online because it’s unverifiable. But by all means, explain how your comment wasn’t an attempt to take a jab at my intellect by implying I was a member of vulnerable minority. Seriously though, don’t reply with whatever you think will “win”. There’s zero doubt that you wrote that as an insult in this conversation, we’re clearly bickering and you didn’t suddenly make a U-Turn and use your supposed loved one’s needs as genuine concern, you used it to undercut by implying my response is unintelligent and needs someone smarter to write it for me. You’re smart enough to know “retard” is verboten but savvy enough with words to make the same implication.

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          9 hours ago

          You were bickering on your own. Feel free to go through my replies to you and tell me where I was bickering with you. Your reaction to my genuine personal experience tells me all I need to know about you. I hope you find peace. Take care.

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            7 hours ago

            If you truly have someone in your life like that but then use your knowledge of their needs to craft better insults you’re worse than a liar trying to save face. It’s bad enough when people treat disability like it’s an insult out of ignorance. You’re not ignorant, you have someone you supposedly love and know what their life is like but choose to take that path anyway. Shame on you.