• MangoCats@feddit.it
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        3 days ago

        I agree to disagree - most times I have ended up in court I could have made choices to stay out, on balance I feel that even when I have won in court by preparing and going I still lost overall and so, most times those were bad decisions to go, fight and win.

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          3 days ago

          Sounds like you’ve had unusual experiences with the courts. I can’t force you to base your opinion off of more typical experiences, in large part because you haven’t lived other people’s lives (or looked into their court cases).

          Back to my metaphor, if a seat-belt trapped me in my car, I wouldn’t decide that must be normal and I should never wear a seat-belt again.

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            3 days ago

            I agree about seatbelts - though if I lived 3 or 4 near-death experiences where seat belts made my outcome worse instead of better, I’d probably say to hell with the odds…

            I know a lot of people who have spent time in the court system, other than ambulance chaser backed situations, I don’t know many happy with the outcomes.

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              3 days ago

              I’m not saying you don’t have cause to be a bit silly about this, I’m just trying to get you to realize you’re being a bit silly about this.

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                2 days ago

                Not only the courts, I find many areas of life where “right and wrong” are best treated as a sort of ideal, aspirational thing, not something to invest a lot of energy in upholding - if you’re interested in overall quality of life. Especially when dealing with our (disabled) children and the school system, but also medical malpractice and other situations, there are fights we could have taken to court, fought hard - at great personal expense not only of legal fees but also time and emotional energy - and won the court case, but lost overall in terms of achieving the things we really cared about - that time and money was put to much more productive and life enhancing uses than “making a stand and proving the injustice.” You can argue that we “shirked our duty to society” by allowing the injustices to continue, I argue that society shirked its duty to itself by making tthe injusticies so individually costly to expose and correct.

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                  1 day ago

                  I don’t know what to tell you other than that we live in a brutal, unfair universe and are forced to do our best.

                  The only thing worse than having courts (which by nature of being comprised of human beings, often get things wrong) is not having courts.

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                    22 hours ago

                    The only thing worse than having courts (which by nature of being comprised of human beings, often get things wrong) is not having courts.

                    I agree to that, 100% - they do make life overall better by their existence. Where I disagree is: they don’t usually make individuals’ lives better by participation in them. There’s a certain “civic duty” aspect to participation in the system, but I strongly believe that taking cases to court, and winning the trial decision, but failing to make a real difference to society going forward - failing to ensure that the injustice will happen less in the future - is just a waste of time and irresponsible enrichment of lawyers.