I appreciate all the work you put into writing about and belittling my experiences. Please reconsider your priorities.
I’m autistic. More importantly I’m also empathetic; too many people have told me that women don’t appreciate being approached by strange people except in very specific circumstances. It’s not just a person risk vs personal reward calculation. It’s also a risk of how whoever I approach may be affected as well. It’s a calculation of what the reward actually is. Getting a date could be fun, but I’m not so sure it’s worth ruining someone (or several someone’s) else’s evening to obtain it. I’m also very sure that the amount of times I would have to try, in order to learn how to flirt, is much higher than a neurotypical person’s would be.
Just because you think that learning to flirt with people is a skill worth having does mean it is one I think is one worth having, independant of any of the risks or realities of what learning to flirt might actually entail.
I appreciate all the work you put into writing about and belittling my experiences
What experiences?
More importantly I’m also empathetic
Heroin addiction will ruin your life. Gambling addiction will ruin your life. Watching your kids get used for target practice by invading soldiers will ruin your life. Watching your friends and neighbors get pancaked by a collapsing apartment block might ruin your life. These things, and other things like them, are really happening in other people’s real lives every day.
Flirting will not ruin your life.
Use that empathy of yours to find some perspective.
women don’t appreciate being approached by strange people
This is a very blinkered idea of what flirting is.
Just because you think that learning to flirt with people is a skill worth having…
I don’t care at all whether you decide to learn to flirt or not. I’m not telling you how to live.
It is your assertion that attempting it would ruin your life that makes me cringe. It is so utterly self-absorbed, so free of context or proportion, such a “I’m 14 and this is deep” attitude. I genuinely hope you grow up enough to see this one day.
I appreciate all the work you put into writing about and belittling my experiences. Please reconsider your priorities.
I’m autistic. More importantly I’m also empathetic; too many people have told me that women don’t appreciate being approached by strange people except in very specific circumstances. It’s not just a person risk vs personal reward calculation. It’s also a risk of how whoever I approach may be affected as well. It’s a calculation of what the reward actually is. Getting a date could be fun, but I’m not so sure it’s worth ruining someone (or several someone’s) else’s evening to obtain it. I’m also very sure that the amount of times I would have to try, in order to learn how to flirt, is much higher than a neurotypical person’s would be.
Just because you think that learning to flirt with people is a skill worth having does mean it is one I think is one worth having, independant of any of the risks or realities of what learning to flirt might actually entail.
What experiences?
Heroin addiction will ruin your life. Gambling addiction will ruin your life. Watching your kids get used for target practice by invading soldiers will ruin your life. Watching your friends and neighbors get pancaked by a collapsing apartment block might ruin your life. These things, and other things like them, are really happening in other people’s real lives every day.
Flirting will not ruin your life.
Use that empathy of yours to find some perspective.
This is a very blinkered idea of what flirting is.
I don’t care at all whether you decide to learn to flirt or not. I’m not telling you how to live.
It is your assertion that attempting it would ruin your life that makes me cringe. It is so utterly self-absorbed, so free of context or proportion, such a “I’m 14 and this is deep” attitude. I genuinely hope you grow up enough to see this one day.